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Ok, I’m a 20M, haven’t really dated, and I’m confused.

You always hear the same advice: don’t rely on dating apps; meet people organically; and join social settings like gyms, clubs, and classes. That all sounds good in theory.

But then you also hear the opposite: don’t approach people at the gym because they’re just there to work out, and don’t ask people out in clubs or group settings because it might make things awkward or mess up the dynamic.

So, where is it actually acceptable to meet someone?

If you take the gym as an example, most people go in, put on their headphones, do their workout, and leave. There’s barely any interaction. Same with a lot of clubs, where people are focused on whatever activity they’re there for, not necessarily on meeting someone.

So if you’re not really supposed to approach in those places, how do people actually meet in real life?

The only other thing people suggest is meeting through friends, but that’s pretty hit-or-miss and not always an option.

Yeah, I’m in university, but honestly, most people talk to me for school-related stuff, and we don’t really have much in common outside of that. I’m also pretty introverted, so I’m not the type to just go up and talk to random people all the time.

I guess I’m just trying to figure out if this advice is kind of contradictory, or if I’m missing something. Is it really “wait and hope something happens,” or is there a better way to say it without it sounding weird?

Right now, it just feels like: meet people…but also don’t actually try to meet people.